1. I believe that there is no such thing as "spoiling" a child when it comes to affection. Some people think that if you hold a baby too much, you're "spoiling" them. "Don't hold that baby too much or else they will expect it all the time." I'm not saying moms and dads cannot take a break when it is needed, but so many parents' attitudes come across as though their own child is inconveniencing them with needing to be held. Children who form a solid attachment with parent(s) are often the most independent, well rounded children I know. I will never, ever subscribe to the idea that by holding, snuggling, kissing, or sleeping next to my child is "spoiling" them. It isn't. Attachment parenting has many positive benefits for both parents and children. There is science behind it-chemistry and biology that supports this. Attachment parenting isn't new and it isn't indulgent. Attachment parenting IS responding to your baby's needs and believing in the language of your baby's cry. Babies cry when they need something. If they don't need a diaper or to eat, then they most likely need you. This article affirmed my thinking in this way (whether or not it was the author's intention): when we cry out to God (or a parent or anyone), what do we expect? We expect an answer. I will respond to the needs of my child, and when she is crying, what she doesn't need is to be ignored. Just because I held and carried her in my body for 9 months doesn't mean that her need for me to hold and carry her ceased when she showed her pretty little face to this big, overwhelming world.
|She isn't spoiled.|
|She is loved!|
|Uh oh, somebody found some mischief.|
|It is a picture worthy event, but no cause for a spanking. (Note: we solved this problem by talking about dog food and water being for dogs, not babies. She now helps us feed the dogs daily!)|
|Happily extended rear-facing on her 2nd birthday!|
|"You want me to rear-face until I'm HOW OLD??"|